Thursday, December 4, 2008

Etiquette Cards

If you've received one of these cards, you've been in breech of a rule of etiquette. This is a social experiment to see if good manners can make the world a happier and safer place. This is just one example of the cards that I will be handing out over the course of the next week. I will also be living my life in the realm of good manners (my only breech, hopefully, is the handing out of the cards!)

Just A

Cell Phone Never-Evers
(Emily Post’s Etiquette, p. 307)

1. Never talk too loudly in public
2. Never leave the ringer on in quiet places
3. Don’t chat if you are with someone
4. Keep calls to a minimum on public transportation or in public areas
5. Don’t use offensive language
(This can include I love yous and my kid is brilliant comments)

Bedrock Principles of Etiquette:

Respect-recognizing the value of other human beings and yourself

Honesty-behaving ethical but avoiding hurting others

Consideration-thoughtfulness and kindness; putting others at ease

Graciousness-handling situations with aplomb and flexibility

Deference-recognizing a person's experience and accomplishments, i.e. using respectful forms of address, standing when an older person enters a room, etc. (p. 3-4 of Emily Post's Etiquette)

All of the etiquette tips printed on these cards were taken from the 17th edition of Emily Post's Etiquette.

Misconceptions about etiquette and the need for it abound, which makes it necessary to list four things etiquette is not:

A set of rigid rules - it is a prescribed way of behaving to make others feel comfortable

Something for the wealthy or well-born
- it is a code of behavior for people from all walks of life. Everyone's life can be enhanced by good manners

A thing of the past - although things are more casual today, the bedrock principles still apply

Snobbishness - a.k.a. pretentiousness - a person who looks down on others shows himself not as superior but small-the kind of person who's anything but respectful and considerate. ( p. 5 of Etiquette)

1 comment:

Lauren said...

I like the idea of this interpretive bible or self-government through the book, hopefully it begins to change and isn't just a strict following of the writer's regulations.

It's also good to find out these things about yourself, but hopefully think of it in a positive way that society and values have changed. In order to progress within your performance, there must be an understanding of change.